Thursday, May 21, 2009

Dating an Ex?

If you don't have a lot of time or patience - skip to 2:50 in...

Alright, catch your breath and continue reading. No, that is not an actual ex of mine, or my child's dad. However, it's a great intro to the WTF moments I have been having with an ex. And this is precisely why I haven't shown him this site. Sorry Mr. X, but some things just need to be dissected, discussed and posted on my blog.

For the past two months I have been reconnecting with someone I used to date. A brief history: The relationship ended on a rather unpleasant note - He pissed me off and I didn't speak to him again. Interestingly enough, he remembers things quite differently. Something about me being at fault... I know, right? We had a bit of a falling out over that issue about a week into this, but we have moved past it. Okay, that's a damn lie, but we are stubbornly choosing not to examine this too closely right now.

He lives in another state and will be in town for a visit early next month. As much as I am looking forward to seeing him, there are a few minor details that need to be worked out. Lately, he has become overly familiar. He's recalling certain *moments* in detail and being extra flirty. I really think this has something to do with me telling him he used to be very closed off from me. Now he's going out of his way to prove he is open - waaay too open. He addressed me as Ms. **** (I can't even write the name, makes me cringe and feel all icky inside) in an email. No pet names. And, really dude, no pet names of a sexual nature.

Yes, he has seen me naked. Yes, he has seen me when I am sick, snotty and my hair looks like Lisa Bonet stuck her finger in a light socket. However, if you add a baby and zero time spent in my presence during the last decade - a little getting to know you again time is in order.

When thinking of dating an ex, should you attempt to regain the level of intimacy you once shared right away? Can you start over and "date" and ex?


  1. One can never step in the same river twice. Whatever that means.

  2. Thanks for commenting Mr. Reddick. That's a rather interesting quote. Maybe it will work out this time... If not, I guess I'll try a new river? ; )

  3. Let me review and rehearse that my last comment. One can never step in the same river twice. This implies an ever-changing landscape. Your ex probably has changed. But is that change for the better. What is it you parted ways for anyway? Do you still see the old behavior rearing its ugly head. To be concise, there is a reason you are not longer together now. Are those issues resolved?

  4. Lol! This is funny/sorta sad that you pose these questions today. I had a very interesting email exchange with this ex earlier. Changed? At this point, I am not sure based on some of the things he had to say.

    We parted ways for several reasons. There wasn't anything too dramatic - distance, career paths and lack of open communication.

  5. ^ Lol. Very succinct answer.